Trailblazer in Silver Hair Representation - Redifining Beauty with Age

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And of that.

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Well, yeah, we'll include an older woman, but we're not going to really pay her, or we may not.

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We may, you know, pair her with someone that looks like her grandfather.

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So it's, there are those successes, but we still have a long way to go for brands to understand who we are and what age really looks like and get the perception and reality of age to match, because it doesn't currently.

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Hi, I'm Linus Woods Mullins and I love to help women to vibe, to be more vibrant, intuitive, beautiful and empowered in their life.

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So come on, let's vibe.

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There's been so much discussion lately about this whole aging process.

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I really I'm always getting people sending me articles and reels and all kinds of things about the aging thing.

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It's not just like my generation all of a sudden started getting old.

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I think it has to do with the numbers.

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There are so many more people like me than there has ever been before.

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In time, the baby boomers have taken over and the interesting thing is that we're not going away.

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But unfortunately, that particular part of communication while I'm getting all the information and I know my guests are getting information it doesn't seem to be happening as much when it comes to the marketing and advertising arm of the advertisers and the people who make the decisions in terms of who hawks their products.

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Basically, well, I am so excited because I have with me today a woman who is in many ways, single-handedly trying to change that.

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Stephanie O'Dell, who is the founder of Celebrate the Gray is an agency for women over 50, and she represents about 100 of the real models, influencers and content creators.

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It's a collective of women who are passionate about changing the visuals and the narratives that women can be served at any age, that we are still vibrant, still involved, still engaged, believe it or not, after 50.

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And she represents a wonderful demographic of women who are living lives that are all about what I talk about all the time vibrant lives after 50, after 60, after 65.

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And then we have with us Angela she, angela Belias I hope I'm saying that correctly, okay.

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And she's a wife and a mom of an autistic teenager and she is also a recent gray haired model.

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And I invited her on because she is kind of in her encore career and has had some demonstrated success in working as a gray haired model.

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And let's just get into it.

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What's going on, stephanie?

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Why do you think all of a sudden people have awakened and say, oh, you're old and maybe that's not so bad?

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well.

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Thank you, first and foremost, for having us both here today and um, we actually are close to 300 models and influencers and content creators nationwide.

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So, and growing, I have, you know, five to 10 women a week reach out and say I want to be part of what you're doing.

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So I would say, for us it hasn't been all of a sudden.

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It's been a five year plus journey of getting our name out there, growing, organically growing and really building credibility in the space, the age inclusion space, and really listening to the brands that are working with us to find out what works for them.

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You know what is the resource they need.

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Do they need models?

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Do they need influencers?

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Do they need ambassadors?

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Do they need content?

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Because I think brands want to represent us more authentically, but it's very hard to find those visuals, it's hard to find us.

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It's, you know, that's one thing I hear from brands is where is she?

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How do I reach her?

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You know they think we're on TikTok, they think we're on Instagram and the data still shows that the 50 plus woman is mostly on Facebook.

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So there's a lot of misconception and misinformation.

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So there's a lot of education that we, as the consumer, need to do for brands to really understand who we are.

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You know it's interesting because you're right, the majority of us are on Facebook, but just recently the last two months literally I've been on TikTok and I've been surprised.

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I'm getting thousands of views and people and I'm slowly getting the followers.

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I think I'm like just under a thousand or something like that, but there seems to be an audience for what it is that I'm talking about.

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Of course, I talk all about wellness for women over 40.

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But the interesting thing that I found out is that the men who seem to be interested in finding out more about what it means to age gracefully in this particular time of our lives and I was just wondering had you ever considered, do you have any male gray haired models as well?

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male gray haired models as well.

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Nope, nope, I've had men reach out, but I focused on women.

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You know it's a space.

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I understand it's a personal journey for myself.

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You know, having a 92 year old mother and a 23 year old daughter, I see the the journey at both sides of the journey.

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So I always think, you know, whatever journey you're on, the more personal you can make it, the more authentic and the more it resonates with people.

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So you know, maybe someday, but not yeah, which is exactly why I don't work with men in terms of wellness?

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I'm not.

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I don't do men.

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I'm married to one, that's it.

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I've got four daughters, you know, two sisters.

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You know we're a matriarchal family for the most part, so I'm not into that part, but I could see where, because, in my opinion, the men who are older are not being represented.

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I mean, I was looking at something the other day with an actor and I was like Jesus, he looks like he's one foot in the grave.

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Other day with an actor and I was like Jesus, he looks like he's one foot in the grave.

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But they had him as an active male adult who was married, whose wife still seemed to be attracted to him and everything else, and he looked like Methuselah.

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I'm not going to say his name, but it was like whoa.

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Okay.

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First initial T, last initial J, middle initial L Okay.

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Okay.

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Well, I'm going gonna have to work on that one.

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You have the same kind of experience on the Amazon prime ad that you did.

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I even wrote you and I'm like who's the guy they paired you with.

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Yeah, I got a lot of people responding to that too going.

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I can't believe that was your husband on the show.

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I'm like, yeah, well, I'm not part of the casting, I can't make that decision, I just show up.

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I thought that was interesting too, but it's interesting.

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I know you have a lot of experiences now, Angela, since you've entered into the second career.

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But what made you decide to enter into the second career?

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It was a brave decision on my part, because I never thought of myself ever being a model and I got more and more people coming up to me on the street going I love your hair, how do you get it like that?

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Or, you know, I got a lot of compliments on my look and I thought, you know, maybe?

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And then I started seeing, like, is there modeling opportunities for the 50 plus demographic?

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And so I just kind of did a search and I found Celebrate the Gray online.

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And then I reached out on the bottom of the website there's a way you can enter your information to get a callback or, you know, an email back from Stephanie.

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And I'm so glad I made that first little like decision after I talked to my husband and he's like I don't know, that market might be flooded with people.

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You might not be able to make any money.

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You might not be able to make any money.

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So I said, well, I never know until I try.

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So I'm like, let me try.

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This was, you know, like a year and a half ago I guess, and it's a decision I'm so thankful I made out of a leap of faith.

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So thank you, stephanie, absolutely.

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Because, angela, we had our call and literally within the next week I had a request for a hair shoot in LA and I was reached out to Angela and she did it and it just kind of has been successful.

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You've been successful since then and you know, the thing I say about Angela is she is open, she's a yes, she says yes and she does these.

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Know, the thing I say about Angela is she is open, she's a yes, she says yes and she does these things to build her resume.

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And it may not be a ton of money, but it's experience and it's really good exposure for her.

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I mean, she's built her resume on casting networks and has much more credibility because of that.

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It's like anything right when you start a new job, you kind of do all that you can to learn, and so I really applaud Angela for learning and continuing to take jobs to get more exposure for herself.

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Stephanie, in all of this that you've been doing and working with women and building your agency, celebrate the Gray.

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What have been some of the biggest challenges?

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Well, as you mentioned, getting brands to actually step up and spend money to represent us.

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I mean, I get a lot of reach out.

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Oh yeah, we're not really paying anything, but almost to the effect, or almost to the idea, that we're doing you a favor by using somebody in your agency and I'm like, no, that's a favor, like we're an important consumer that you should be valuing.

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I'm one of the gals.

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Grace just did a job in New York and they reached out with initial fee and I was like that's her hourly fee, so I don't think we could do this job.

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And they ended up paying her what she was worth and what she should be paid.

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But you know, it's kind of that.

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Um well, yeah, we'll include an older woman, but we're not going to really pay her, or we may not.

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We may, you know, pair her with someone that looks like her grandfather.

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So it's, there are those successes, but we still have a long way to go for brands to understand who we are and what age really looks like and get the perception and reality of age to match, because it doesn't currently.

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Yeah, well, let's talk a little bit about those brands.

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Angela, what brands have you worked for so?

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far Well.

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I've done the Amazon Prime Black Friday football commercial, which was a really big one, pravana.

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As Stephanie mentioned, that was my first job.

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I've worked with Amanda Gorman for a milk campaign for a first ever women's marathon coming up that I think Stephanie is going to be running in.

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Oh, not that one, not that one Okay, I'm not ready yet New York, new York.

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And then I did a Bad Bunny video.

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I've done a couple little pop-up ads that are showing up on Facebook and Instagram for Superbeat, heart Shoes and MeUndies.

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So I have another one coming up.

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That is a Q&A kind of panel, where it's from a new company that's launching and that coming up in March or April, and I'm on a panel of people being asked questions about cosmetic skincare routine and what we do.

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Wow, that's fabulous.

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That's fabulous, stephanie.

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Why do you think you mentioned that?

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It's because you know she's willing to take anything and get not anything but take a lot of work and get the experience.

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Yeah, not anything.

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Get the experience, but what else goes into being successful?

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Once you decide you want to do something like this, what do you look for when it comes to signing someone to the agency?

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Well, I, you know, believe that I'm not defining what beautiful is.

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I feel like if a woman comes to me and is over 50, in the beginning it was over 50, going gray or gray and had not had cosmetic plastic surgery facial cosmetic surgery, um, but we've pivoted and and now have the influencer and ambassador side, so it's really a woman over 50 that um are really passionate about positive aging.

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So that is the reason I speak to everybody, because I do have women that come to me and say I want to make this a full-time career and we're just not there, and I really believe that each woman that's part of the collective is an advocate for change, and so her voice and opinion matters, and so she has to be willing to put herself out there, talk about how old she is, what she's doing to give other women that are sitting around living in a box society has put them in an example or a role model to say, oh, she looks like me, she sounds like me, maybe I can do that.

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Like Angela's story, we've done an Instagram live together.

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She talked all about casting networks, which is a platform, and I'm an agent on and and use and use and encourage women to use it, because it does feed all kinds of opportunities and it's kind of getting out of your own way, right.

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It's like hearing Angela was frightened to do these things or it was scary to go drive to the studio lot and find the parking lot and find the right wardrobe and all those things that we all experience.

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But she did it and you know, so the next time it's easier and it's just having those examples.

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So we also have the private Facebook group collective.

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So if women don't really fall into the modeling side or the influencer side, there's a space for everybody that's over 50 that wants to really understand how they can take control back of their aging.

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You know, it's really an empowering opportunity for many women because, like, as Angela was saying, she hadn't done anything like this before, but somewhere in the back of their mind of something that she, you know, kind of maybe always wanted to do but just didn't actually do it, and it seems to me that by doing it you begin to feel more empowered.

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What are other ways, in both of your opinions, that women can begin to feel more empowered as they age?

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What should they be doing to feel more empowered?

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Angela, we'll start with you.

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Well I'm going to say say yes to more opportunities that come your way.

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Don't feel like, just because of your age or your silver hair or the wrinkles on your face, that you can't do something necessarily.

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I say if an opportunity arises, please give it a try and don't let your own preconceived ideas or stereotypes about aging hold you back.

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So, for instance, I, over the pandemic, wanted to find my happy again and I started roller skating.

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I haven't roller skated since I was a teenager and in my 20s, but after 30 years of not lacing up, I decided to try it and it immediately all came back to me like riding a bike and I fell in love with it and it is my new passion and my favorite way to exercise, honestly.

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So it's one of those things that don't let, just because you're at an age bracket, say no to something that you may really love.

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You know it's interesting because you bring up an important point.

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Many times, the whole ageism thing that you hear everybody talking about sometimes really starts with us in terms of how we perceive ourselves.

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I hear so many women say, oh no, I can't do that, I'm too old, or no, why would I do that?

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Or that doesn't look right because she's too old.

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And you know, sometimes I feel like we have to change our narrative, change our mindset in terms of how we view ourselves.

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Sometimes you know how they say that you can sometimes be your own worst critic.

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Well, take that a step further.

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Sometimes women in this age bracket can be their own worst critic because of expectations or limitations that we set on ourselves, based upon, of course, indoctrination and the things we've heard over the years.

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But even though we are our mother's child, we are not our mother.

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There's a big, big difference between our parents, who might have been raised in the 30s and 40s, and us that were raised in the 60s and 70s.

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The technology age began to come in, diversity began to come in, just a whole range of things that our parents just weren't experiencing.

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In fact, I would venture to say there is more of a differentiation between the baby boomers and their parents than there is in the Generation Xers and their parents, you know.

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So we didn't get a whole lot of you know feminism talk.

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You know we got that when we were in high school from our peers and listening to things we're not necessarily from our parents.

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So we have to kind of change and be advocates for ourselves.

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You know, advocate, looking at things a little differently.

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What about you, stephanie?

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What kinds of things do you think women should be thinking about when it comes to getting more empowered as we age?

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Well, I, you know, agree 100% with Angela about getting out of your own way, but I think also, friends and family can have such a huge impact on our decisions that we sometimes stop ourselves because we're afraid of what our friends, how they will respond, our family, what our mothers, our fathers, our sisters, our brothers, whatever, may say to us.

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So, if you can't get the support that you need to take that first step or next step in your journey, find a community that does see you in the light that you see yourself, especially with social media.

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There are and this is why I'm so passionate about women sharing their stories Because there is somebody out there that will be an inspiration to you and give you the strength to think about what's next for you and not settle into what you've done and feel like, well, that's as good as it gets.

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It's like.

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If you really believe or feel like you want to do more, find that community that can support that more for you.

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Yeah, I absolutely agree.

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You know, it's interesting because I've been in business now for over 16 years and when I first got started which my age group, our age group women for me, my demographic is 40 and and above we were not online like that.

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Back in 2008 and 2009, we might have been looking at ebay maybe you know cnncom or you know something like that but we weren't necessarily shopping online and the idea of getting our health services online or a coach or any of that was just not there.

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But I knew that over time we would be, and so I started those building blocks quite a long time ago.

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So I have really seen how things have progressed and in some ways, one of the good things that came out of COVID even the most resistant over 50 women who didn't want to get on the internet, doesn't want to bother with computers and everything else began to figure out how to get on Zoom, get on Zoom.

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And it's so funny because when I first started my whole thing I'm virtual, so I would have to first I had this long description thing, instructions on how to get on Zoom and all of the kind of stuff, because it was also new, new, new.

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So I'm looking at this now and I'm like, wow, I'm so glad that we're catching up, and I want to talk a little bit about women and technology and how that plays into your business.

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Do you find that you use a lot of technology in your business?

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And then how are women?

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responding to that, since that might be a part of your business.

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Yeah, technology, and especially Angela can talk about this.

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The whole casting, the way things are cast, is completely different because of COVID and technology, so it's much easier.

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I mean, you don't have to drive.

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There's a lot of virtual opportunities.

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You know it's interesting.

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I will get women, I'm trying to think.

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The oldest woman is probably in her late 80s that has joined Celebrate the Gray.

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Oldest woman is probably in her late 80s that has joined Celebrate the Gray.

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So yeah, there's definitely some technical issues that I may have to walk her through, but what I always find is those older women want to learn and they're not afraid to ask questions.

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And I think that goes back to your question before is don't be afraid to say I don't know how to do this.

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Can you help me Right?

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Because I think as we age, we really want to support and lift each other up and help, and we know we've gone through something similar.

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So to be able to guide somebody else through and help and this is Angela's done this quite a bit for the Celebrate the Great Collective has shared her experiences and that is you know what's so golden about it that you know if you can share your wisdom, share your wisdom with an older person.

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You know they may be lonely and not connected because and I think COVID helped a lot of older people but there are those opportunities for us to help our aunts, our mothers or sisters, whatever it may be, to understand technology and I think, also to really talk about our knowledge of technology, because that is a reality perception deficit.

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Right now too, brands think that we're not tech savvy and we don't want to be tech savvy.

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But then it also comes back to are you talking to that end user and making sure that the system works for her?

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I mean, I look at some of these bottles I get or products I get and I'm like, ok, well, I can't read this.

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So are you even thinking about me as a 50, 60 year old?

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Or you know technology, all this user generated?

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There's a lot of energy goes into that, but I don't know if it goes into it as much for the older consumer that's a very good point, because what about that medication that is like almost fort knocks to get into and you know it's not for children, and children aren't even around anymore like that.

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For most of us, they're with our kids because they're our grandchildren living with us and getting into it?

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You have arthritis, or if your dexterity isn't as way as it used to be, it's like what got to take a sledgehammer and try to get inside of it and everything?

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You know it's crazy.

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So you're right, there's still some things that need to be looked at in terms of enhancing the consumer experience if they want to do business for us.

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But I guess the first step is just to get them aware that we're even out here and want to be included.

00:23:04.643 --> 00:23:09.721
And why are visuals and narratives important when it comes to our aging journey?

00:23:09.721 --> 00:23:10.103
Stephanie?

00:23:11.849 --> 00:23:20.005
Well, it's hard to be inspired by a 20 year old that's a size two when you're not a size two and you're, you know, going in your 50s.

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I did a lot of fashion shows for Athletic in the beginning of growing the brand and I had a woman reach out to me after we had to do a virtual one during COVID and I had a woman reach out to me and say thank you so much for showing the fashion on a woman, an older woman that was a size 12.

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You gave me permission to go into that store.

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I always felt so uncomfortable to go into that store, but then that, you know, plays into.

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You walk in the store and then what are the mannequins look like?

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What are the salespeople look like?

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What are the visuals look like?

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So there's, so it's so important that your visuals and narratives as a brand are represented authentically in social media, in your brick and mortar, you know, in your newsletters, in your emails, yeah, and that you actually your product works for us I definitely know about that.

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As an older woman and an african-american woman, I can tell you what you know it would.

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It would be like over the years um, either you just go ahead and patronize these people, because otherwise you'd be walking around naked, because they just weren't they just weren't showing images like us.

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There was no one looking like me for years and years and years.

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But the tradeoff for that is a strong sense of empowerment.

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I mean if you're able to survive and thrive in an environment like that, where people aren't recognizing you or not thinking that you're relevant enough or important enough to have folks that look like you.

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I had an experience the other day and you know I'm becoming more and more of an advocate on this thing because I have a.

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I run with a group of women who are really advocating the aging gracefully from a woman of color point of view, and there was this.

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They were, it was a promo and they were advertising, I think a second act type of gathering.

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It's called the Gathering or something like that.

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It was a wonderful promo and all the women that they were showing, talking about their experience and everything else, they were all women that were not of color.

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So I just put a comment in the YouTube.

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I said, ok, well, where's the diversity?

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And then she said, oh, thank you so much for responding.

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She said, you know, further emails are coming out and they'll have the diversity.

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And I said, well, that's basically that's all fine and good, but you know that first impression is what's most important.

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If I'm not seeing it, I'm not going to click around and give you my email address to see if you do it later.

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So I think that in taking that story and applying it to the aging thing, we want to try to get those folks who are trying to get our business.

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They need to lead with some of this stuff instead of waiting for us to not buy their products or talk about them bad or whatever.

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It should be part of the DNA of what they include.

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And I have to say, stephanie, I'm beginning to see some improvement and I think that you have really helped raise the awareness.

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I know it's been a lot of hard work getting their awareness raised but you know, if you don't put it in front of folks, many times it's not their initial impetus to go out after it.

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It doesn't even have to do with their bias.

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It just has to do with what they're used to and what they know.

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And if you take a look at who runs these advertising agencies, they're young, they're young, they're millennials, yeah.

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Yeah, and they're.

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You know, that's the thing I always say look, it is not, it is out of lack of information that it is the way it is, but lack of information and also acceptance on our part that we continue to buy product that represents us inaccurately, and so then it just reinforces the messaging oh, this is what they want.

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This is you know.

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They want anti aging products, they want anti wrinkle products, they want to dye their hair, they want to be skinnier.

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Because we continue to buy, because we think there's not options.

00:27:00.843 --> 00:27:26.811
But if we're more careful with our dollars and we take the time to educate decision makers and and Angela can speak to this, and Linus, you're part of Celebrate the Gray and you've been on shoots the power that, that interaction when you're on set, what happens for those decision makers when they actually engage with somebody that's not their mother or their aunt or their grandmother that's older?

00:27:27.700 --> 00:27:33.063
Yeah, it's interesting because when I went on my shoot they were pleasantly surprised because I had some.

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I mean, they were so funny it basically.

00:27:35.288 --> 00:27:37.523
They literally said, wow, you have so much energy.

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And I'm like, well, would you expect me to show up dead.

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I'm not dead yet.

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I know I should be in the rocking chair with one baby here and the other one petting the stomach of my daughter who's expecting my next grandchild.

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But that's not my life, it's never been my life.

00:27:54.047 --> 00:27:56.948
And Angie, we're getting ready to say something, too, about that.

00:27:57.549 --> 00:28:06.819
Yeah, when I'm on the shoot there's a lot of downtime between the camera time and usually they ask us to put our phones away for NDA reasons.

00:28:06.819 --> 00:28:11.528
So it provides one-on-one conversations, which is lovely.

00:28:11.528 --> 00:28:20.287
The Millennials and Gen Zers are kind of shocked to hear my story because they ask questions about me and my life.

00:28:20.287 --> 00:28:29.108
They're surprised that I roller skate, that I take Ariel Silk's class, that I want to take a pole dancing class one day soon.

00:28:29.108 --> 00:28:38.835
So I kind of shocked them that life doesn't stop at 50 and that you can keep doing new things.

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And they're really.

00:28:41.525 --> 00:28:58.614
I'm trying to hopefully show that you can age and don't fear it more, that you can age and don't fear it more, step into it with a sense of of um accepting challenges, accepting opportunities, saying yes and um really living in the moment.

00:28:58.614 --> 00:29:03.320
Because, um, yeah, I, I became a mom for the first time at 37.

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So I'm not a grandmother I could be and I play them on TV but I'm authentically a real mom of a teenager who you know their biases too Many of them think the millennials are horrible.

00:29:16.989 --> 00:29:18.529
They don't listen.

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They don't have any respect for lack of a better description that we set up in terms of how systems should be and everything else.

00:29:39.429 --> 00:29:40.751
And that's not true.

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I work with a lot of millennials because it's my business A lot of them I've had an increase of women following me between the ages of 35 and 40, 30, 35 and 40, all that demographic that's going up because they want to know how can I survive this craziness that's going on right now and end up being like you.

00:30:00.807 --> 00:30:04.527
What do I need to be doing right now to take better care of myself?

00:30:04.527 --> 00:30:07.429
And a lot of baby boomers are still in that thing.

00:30:07.429 --> 00:30:11.663
Well, they're not listening to us.

00:30:11.663 --> 00:30:13.972
Well, you know, if you don't talk to them, you won't be able to find out if they're listening or not.

00:30:13.972 --> 00:30:20.563
Many times they are, and many of the millennials have told me they don't have those kinds of relationships with their parents where they're talking and exchanging ideas.

00:30:20.563 --> 00:30:24.772
You know they're in their corner and their parents are in that corner.

00:30:24.772 --> 00:30:31.038
They might meet for birthdays, holidays, that kind of thing, but just having a regular conversation, for whatever reason, that's not happening.

00:30:31.038 --> 00:30:37.047
And so actually, someone like you, angela, and also Stephanie too, when they get a chance to work with us and me.

00:30:37.047 --> 00:30:43.289
It's amazing how you begin to to use a dated term bridge the gap, because that generation gap is still there.

00:30:43.289 --> 00:30:52.721
So many of the things we were talking about 40 years ago it's still.

00:30:52.721 --> 00:30:53.644
There's still issues, they're still happening.

00:30:53.644 --> 00:30:55.554
There's nothing has really changed and, of course, there's nothing really new under the sun.

00:30:55.554 --> 00:31:00.229
You know everything that is you know once old is new again same reoccurring issues and things like that.

00:31:00.348 --> 00:31:05.542
I was watching oh, LA Law has just been re-released, ladies, on Hulu.

00:31:05.542 --> 00:31:06.404
If you ever watched it.

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I never got a chance to watch all of it because I was raising my kids in the 90s and we were just immersed with Sesame Street and the Disney Channel, so I never got a chance to watch it.

00:31:14.106 --> 00:31:30.717
But now I'm catching up on all of the TV series I didn't get a chance to watch and as I'm watching this, I'm like, oh my gosh, minus the fashions and maybe the background music, the same things that they're talking about then are still going on right now.

00:31:30.717 --> 00:31:32.103
It was amazing.

00:31:32.103 --> 00:31:34.509
It's a 30 year gap, but it's the same thing.

00:31:34.509 --> 00:31:40.471
So we really have a lot more in common with those who are younger than us than what we might think.

00:31:40.471 --> 00:31:41.614
A lot more in common.

00:31:42.240 --> 00:31:56.502
Something you said earlier, linus, about our parents, our general parents that were different than our parents, and I think that's a huge reason there's change happening, because I know my mom is oh, it's just the way it is.

00:31:56.502 --> 00:31:57.265
That's her comment.

00:31:57.265 --> 00:31:58.608
If I'll say well, why don't you know?

00:31:58.608 --> 00:32:00.522
Why don't you call the doctor back?

00:32:00.522 --> 00:32:01.385
And what are the doctor?

00:32:01.385 --> 00:32:10.240
Oh, it's just the way it is, and you know, and our generation is.

00:32:10.240 --> 00:32:10.401
But why?

00:32:10.401 --> 00:32:11.763
We will ask the question why is it that way and can we change it?

00:32:11.763 --> 00:32:19.686
So that is why change is happening, because we're stepping up and saying I don't like this, I don't like feeling invisible, and how do we change it?

00:32:20.587 --> 00:32:22.792
and we don't disappear, we're still here.

00:32:23.133 --> 00:32:39.954
I know we're not going away and until it is time to go away, but now we're here and I'm so excited and I feel really good about what's happening because I feel like, quite frankly, I was a small little impetus.

00:32:39.954 --> 00:33:01.614
Part of that In my background are many, many, first, in terms of the things that I've done online that you know women weren't doing or African-American women weren't doing, and so it really feels good to see all my sisters out here doing stuff and really rewriting the playbook in terms of what it is to age.

00:33:01.614 --> 00:33:06.520
I have to say one more thing about the word anti-aging, and I just want to know what's your opinion on that?

00:33:06.520 --> 00:33:07.102
What's your word?

00:33:07.102 --> 00:33:10.612
What is it about anti-aging that you support or don't support, stephanie?

00:33:11.299 --> 00:33:12.343
Well, I don't support it.

00:33:12.343 --> 00:33:24.040
I mean, I don't want to fight aging, I want to celebrate the wisdom and experience I have had over the years and I want to learn what wisdom and experience others have.

00:33:24.040 --> 00:33:26.627
And really that's celebrate the gray it.

00:33:26.627 --> 00:33:32.308
You know, it's gray hair, yes, but it's really the gray of aging that it's this time of celebration.

00:33:32.308 --> 00:33:34.520
We've done amazing things in the world.

00:33:34.520 --> 00:33:41.980
We've brought human life into the world and now it's we want to evolve into the next phase of our life.

00:33:41.980 --> 00:33:47.667
And I really, by saying anti aging, we're saying we don't want to age.

00:33:47.907 --> 00:33:51.332
I used to be so fearful of aging, oh my God.

00:33:51.332 --> 00:33:53.074
I remember when I was little I'd shake it out of my head.

00:33:53.074 --> 00:34:05.335
I don't even want to think about it, I don't want to think about dying and I just am really settled into who I am and really celebrate what I've done to get myself to this point.

00:34:05.335 --> 00:34:16.226
And I think a lot of women sometimes will talk about the things they haven't done or the experience they don't have, or they this, but they don't focus on all the amazing things they've done.

00:34:16.226 --> 00:34:26.485
And if we could really turn their narrative, turn our narratives around in our head to focus on that, it would give you that strength to kind of move forward.

00:34:26.706 --> 00:34:27.489
Angela, what about you?

00:34:27.489 --> 00:34:43.811
Yeah, again, I'm not an anti-ager, because I'm trying to authentically represent what the years look like for me, and that's why I chose to go silver and not Botox and not get fillers.

00:34:43.811 --> 00:34:50.382
I'm just letting the wrinkles come and the age spots and the sagging skin kind of all of it.

00:34:50.382 --> 00:34:59.304
So I'm looking at it more as I'm thankful I'm here because I have so many friends who didn't get to see silver hair.

00:34:59.304 --> 00:35:20.773
They died of cancer in their thirties or forties and I'm I'm so thankful for every day I have breath on this planet and I want to celebrate that day and just be probably trying to show a positive ripple in this big ocean of life of what authentic aging can look like.

00:35:21.400 --> 00:35:28.094
I don't felt people who want to do the Botox, because if that's their choice, it's everybody's personal choice.

00:35:28.094 --> 00:35:30.043
So again, I'm not, I'm not.

00:35:30.043 --> 00:35:36.684
I'm going to say nay, say that those that choose that that's their choice and I'm, you know, I celebrate them.

00:35:36.684 --> 00:35:44.226
But for me I want to show what I it looks like on my face and my, my body and my representation.

00:35:45.248 --> 00:35:47.132
I'm with you, sister, and I'll tell you something else too.

00:35:47.132 --> 00:35:48.322
And my representation.

00:35:48.322 --> 00:35:49.565
I'm with you, sister, and I'll tell you something else too.

00:35:49.565 --> 00:35:50.668
When I hear the word anti-aging, that just means okay.

00:35:50.668 --> 00:35:52.253
So what's the opposite of that?

00:35:52.253 --> 00:35:56.346
If you're not for aging and if you're against anti-aging, does that mean you're against living?

00:35:56.346 --> 00:36:00.021
Because if you're not aging, then you're dead.

00:36:00.661 --> 00:36:03.246
But we're bender and buttoning and we don't do that.

00:36:03.447 --> 00:36:08.875
So I don't know, unless you have been like Ponce de Leon and found the fountain of youth.

00:36:08.875 --> 00:36:18.115
We're going to age and there's all kinds of things you can do to it, but to be anti-aging means to me that you're anti-living because there's no way.

00:36:18.135 --> 00:36:33.295
And these folks that do have a problem with aging, who are younger, you know, if you're lucky, keep living and we'll see later on if you feel the same way about older people, because you're not going to necessarily go away in the dark and slither under a door and stay in a rocking chair in a corner and hold a bunch of grandbabies.

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You're not going to want to do that.

00:36:34.565 --> 00:36:44.375
You're going to want to continue to live and celebrate who you are, just like Stephanie O'Dell of Celebrate the Gray and Angela, also of Celebrate the Gray, are doing right now.

00:36:44.375 --> 00:36:48.210
Thank you so much for being on the Vibe Living podcast.

00:36:48.210 --> 00:36:52.306
It's been wonderful having you here today, thank you so much for having us.

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You're welcome.

00:36:53.420 --> 00:36:54.967
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