Dec. 17, 2024
How Women Over 40 Can Set Boundries To Enhance Their Epowerment and Peace
What if the key to unlocking peace and empowerment in midlife is simply setting the right boundaries? In this episode of the Vibe Living Podcast, host Lynnis Woods-Mullins welcomes the insightful Christina L. Woods to explore the transformative power of boundaries. Together, they share candid stories of navigating career transitions, health challenges, and family dynamics, illustrating how setting boundaries can redefine self-worth. Far from being harsh, boundaries nurture self-compassion and help prioritize personal needs. Through their experiences, they encourage listeners to embrace midlife with wisdom and self-love.
As the podcast celebrates its eighth season and the milestone of 100 episodes, Christina L. Woods highlights the "VIBE"—vibrancy, intuition, beauty, and empowerment—that women over 40 can embody. She shares how connecting with a higher power has helped her maintain her high vibe and foster spiritual grounding as a foundation for personal growth. Together, Lynnis and Christina delve into strategies for overcoming self-sabotage, setting firm boundaries, preventing burnout, and building resilience.
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Christina L. Woods is an internationally recognized Clinical Hypnotherapist, Rapid Transformational Therapist®, Empowerment Coach, and Reiki Master. She empowers women to overcome self-sabotage, break free from limitations, and discover their inner strength to create fulfilling lives. As the founder of Wise Woods Hypnotherapy, Christina's signature method combines hypnotherapy, coaching, and energy healing for profound personal transformation.
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Chapters
00:00 - Setting Boundaries in Midlife Transformation
12:55 - Breaking Self-Sabotage & Setting Boundaries
24:37 - Empowering Midlife Women Through Vibration
Transcript
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to me about that, what are some of the things that we do to self-sabotage ourselves, especially as we're approaching midlife?
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You know, Brene Brown has a great quote and again, it's not mine, it's Brene Brown's but she did all her research which she does that great research to back up everything she talks about, and she found that compassionate people have boundaries of steel, that compassionate people have boundaries of steel, and so sabotage is really just based in that feeling of of I'm not enough, because if I sabotage that thing, then I don't have to be judged.
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Hi, I'm Linus Woods Mullins and I love to help women to vibe, to be more vibrant, intuitive, beautiful and empowered in midlife.
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So come on, let's vibe.
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You know, this whole midlife journey is so interesting only because I talk about it all the time.
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It's always on my mind, but I think for those of us who are going through this journey, the thing that's most interesting is the transformation that we go through and the different kinds of things we find that we need to change.
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It's kind of like, you know, building a train track.
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As the train is going down the track, as you begin to have more experience, you're like, oh okay, this doesn't work anymore.
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Oh okay, I want to change that.
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And it can be kind of confusing sometimes and other things.
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Other times we kind of dig our heels in because this is the way we've done it and this is the way I'm going to always do it.
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I'm tired of these transitions.
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I'm not changing, but the reality is to make our life simpler.
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One of the first things we have to do is the whole idea of embracing change, and with embracing change comes the idea of taking a look at, maybe changing, some of the boundaries that we've established over the years.
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So that's why I'm so excited to have with us Christina L Woods.
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No, she's no relation, but we already are kind of like pseudo family because we have the same last maiden names Christina.
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Welcome to the Vibe Living Podcast.
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It's wonderful to have you here today.
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Thank you so much for having me.
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I'm really really excited to be here.
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Well, it's great having you.
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Christina is a nationally and internationally recognized clinical hypnotherapist, rapid transformational therapist and an empowerment coach and a Reiki master, and she works with women to help them realize their self-worth.
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And one of the things that's really important about realizing your self-worth, Christina, is setting the boundaries, and that's what we're going to be talking about today.
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Why are you so passionate about the idea of helping women kind of reestablish some beliefs about themselves and recognizing their self-worth and setting boundaries?
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You know it was a huge self journey with that.
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I experienced that got me actually here.
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This is my second career and and I enjoyed hearing about your own journey and I imagine that it inspired you to have this podcast.
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But my journey was full of a lack of boundaries, probably since my childhood and discovering that boundaries doesn't mean I have to be a tough woman in corporate or a mean mom or have this gruffness about me, and that's kind of what I grew up thinking that boundaries really was.
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And it wasn't until gosh, I was knocking on the door of 50 that I had to really face a lot of things.
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As the cards came crumbling down, if you will my health, career, marriage, kids, leaving the home, menopause all these things started happening and, boy, I really had to face and dig down deep.
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And in that process I realized that I had to redefine who I was inside, what was important to me, and the evolution of that was it's okay to have boundaries and this is what boundaries really feel like, and with that comes a lot of self-compassion and love.
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And so, on this journey, I made a leap to change my career and help women find out what is stopping them from feeling empowered to have boundaries, and let's redefine the definition of boundaries.
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Wow.
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We have so much in common because I had my aha moment at 50, 51, actually, I was in corporate America.
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I climbed the ladder, I was basically the definition of success, but there were issues that I was experiencing.
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I had an anxiety disorder, I was working hard to try to save my second marriage and, with a blended family of teenagers, one on the way off to school, and just a lot of life-changing things all at once, I was in menopause but didn't know it at the time.
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There's a lot of things going on and I made a decision initially to get well so that I could think more clearly about setting goals and doing that whole metamorphosis that I went through, gosh, 17 years ago, almost 18 years ago.
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I never really thought initially about maybe also taking a look at setting the boundaries so that I could facilitate getting well, so that I could be more clear.
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It just wasn't even on my radar.
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The whole idea of setting boundaries when it comes to my new blended family, my new husband, my daughters, my new blended family, my new husband, my daughters, all this stuff, it was all.
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Whatever was going on that might've been wrong.
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It had to have been just me.
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Right had to be me that needed to change, instead of the idea of maybe redefining and setting some of these boundaries so that I wasn't feeling so overwhelmed?
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Why do you think it's so hard for women to recognize the need to set boundaries?
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Why do you think it's so hard for women to recognize the need to set boundaries?
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Well, I think, first of all, recognizing that boundaries are what are we available for?
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Because I think externally and even internally, I thought I had boundaries.
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I also was very successful in corporate.
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I was a VP, you know, making six figures flying around the country.
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I was not VP, you know, making six figures flying around the country.
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I was not considered shy, I was very vocal, outgoing, you know, a leader.
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So I don't think anyone would meet me and say she doesn't have boundaries Yet you could call me at midnight and say, hey, we need a report in the morning and I would do it.
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We have so much in common.
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I was.
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You know, don't worry, I'll bring snacks to the soccer team.
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I got you, I'm hosting that party, I'm doing this, I'm doing that.
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So I think, as a woman, that you know this, I'm going to do it all.
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And that means you know I've got it all, I'm going to be happy, I'm fine.
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It just got really blurry and yet again I was like I have boundaries.
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I I'm, I'm vocal, I'm a strong woman, I'm independent, and so I just had to.
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I didn't even know what boundaries were.
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I just had to redefine that.
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So I think part of it is this, this that we often seek and not really understanding.
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Of course we want approval.
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It's a primal need to want and seek approval.
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I mean, we can go so far back to know that for pure survival reasons, we seek approval.
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What we need to understand now, and now that I'm a hypnotherapist and we get to some pretty core beliefs about approval, is there's nothing wrong with seeking approval.
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Yet you and I both know because we had approval in our bank account and promotions and so many different awards, ceremonies and so on that that doesn't make you feel approved of or enough, ceremonies and so on, that that doesn't make you feel approved of or enough.
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I also had an anxiety disorder.
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I also had, you know, so many other thyroid issues and and menopause symptoms going through the roof and a divorce after 25 years, and so many issues that I was just not paying attention to blind spots because external validation did not give me the internal approval that I needed to look for.
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So you know boundaries start with finding out what.
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What are the blind spots?
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What are we not realizing that we're seeking outside approval for, you know, in my case it was a belief I'm not enough, and so many, many women it could be, I'm not enough.
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That seems to be an epidemic for men and women in the world, but particularly women, and this belief that if we are this be all end, all to everyone, we'll fill enough.
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And, and you know, if we're not, if we're not seeking our own needs and having compassion for all parts of us, all ages within us that haven't had our needs met, then yeah, we'll go seek our needs outside.
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So we need to pay attention and get quiet on the inside.
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That's so interesting because, as you were speaking, I was seeing myself so many years ago.
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A lot of people tell me that I don't look my age because I'm 67.
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And I say, well, if I had stayed in corporate America I definitely would have been looking every single bit of my age.
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And then some, because so much of what I was doing to take care of what I thought would have been my approval rating, my success factor, whatever was outer directed, hardly any of it was inner directed.
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When I look back at that and I was so busy doing things and I always go back to that very basic phrase.
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This is not my phrase, but it's something that I've adopted.
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You know, we are so busy being human doings that we forget sometimes to just stop in being human beings.
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Yes, no-transcript it allows you to recognize that you, as a human being, have wants and needs, and what are your wants and needs?
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And for many of us, we've literally just skipped over that part.
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And having wants and needs, depending on how we were raised and what our belief system is, may not have even been allowed or permitted or even been on the radar.
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That was the case in my family.
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I was the oldest of four and nothing wrong with my mother was a single mother doing her best, but there wasn't a lot of time for wants and needs.
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It was chop, chop, let's keep going.
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And this is what you need to do.
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You need to help out.
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So the meaning I attached, so my brother, my sisters may have attached a different meaning, the meaning we attach.
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So it's never the events in our life that take place that are the meaning.
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It's the meaning we attach to the belief.
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So many people walk through life and say I had great parents, there's nothing wrong, this is fine, there's nothing wrong.
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It doesn't mean something you had to have.
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You didn't have to get attacked in a back alley for anything to happen or to have that trauma.
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It's the meaning we attach to things.
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And so when we recognize that we have wants and needs.
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What are those wants and needs?
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Find out what are your wants and needs.
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Have compassion for those wants and needs, which means you do have to quiet down and recognize and identify those wants and needs.
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And put those wants and needs first and recognize doesn't make you a selfish woman, mother, spouse, partner, best friend, colleague, any of those things.
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Because if you can't see and recognize your own needs, that is the first step to boundaries.
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And you know I work with clients to say boundaries start with the energetics of boundaries.
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I mean I don't know about you, but I absolutely know people.
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When they walk into a room, I know and we can feel people with boundaries.
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You know what they're available for and you know what they're not available for that day and sometimes that's a good thing and not.
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But before they even open their mouth right, so it's like, oh, I'm probably not going to ask them for that today.
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And so people know in my family now my partner and people know I have morning time and it's non-negotiable, but it's taken me a long time to honor what I need.
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I need that or I'm completely.
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My nervous system is not regulated all day and that's a boundary that I have that I've had to establish for my clients, for myself, for my adult children when I visit.
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And if I violate the boundary which I do sometimes, I remember that's a boundary I really need to keep for myself.
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Yeah, you kind of remember when you go outside your boundaries why you said it in the first place.
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I too am a morning person because for so many years about 30 years my mornings were not my own, because I have four girls and they were all born very close together.
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And just the mornings, I mean, I would literally sit straight up and then go right into the active mode.
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There was no reflection, there was prayer, but I wasn't really engaged in prayer.
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I was doing other stuff while I was doing the prayer and it was like that from the time I woke up in the morning until the last one closed their eyes at night.
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Many times when they would close their eyes at night, I still had on my corporate clothes, my heels, everything I came in on skates.
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I remember sometimes my friends.
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I look back at this now and I'm thinking, man, I really ought to get them for this.
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They stopped by to say hello or whatever, and they would always stay for dinner and they would joke many years later about how I was always dressed while I was cooking dinner.
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Talking to them, I cooked dinner like in 30 minutes and I do everything from scratch, nothing out of a box, you know all this stuff, you know, and they just thought that was so great.
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Literally.
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They know that inside I was dying and I didn't realize that the pace within which I had lived my life was really setting myself up for a huge self-sabotage.
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Talk to me about that.
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What are some of the things that we do to self-sabotage ourselves, especially as we're approaching midlife?
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You know, brene Brown has a great quote and again it's not mine, it's Brene Brown's but she did all her research which she does, that great research to back up everything she talks about, and she found that compassionate people have boundaries of steel, and so sabotage is really just based in that feeling of I'm not enough, because if I sabotage that thing then I don't have to be judged, I don't have to go there and have that thing not go right, I don't have to be seen, I don't have to.
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You know, whatever that thing is, and you know, one of the things I have, I would say probably 80% of my clients right now I'm working with boundaries, so this is the perfect topic.
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Percent of my clients right now I'm working with boundaries, so this is the perfect topic.
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And I would say one of the things that they struggle with is the difference between the people around them, what they're projecting on them and what is their own emotions.
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And we sabotage, sometimes blurring those lines and saying, okay, this person at work, this person at home, my own children, we can still have compassion for other people and not believe what's coming at us is always about us, because we can sabotage work and home and our own homeostasis and peace by believing.
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Oh, they're saying these things because how could?
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How dare they believe I'm not a compassionate person?
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How dare they believe I didn't do my part in that project?
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I am.
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I'm such a worker bee, how could they believe that so we instantly go to?
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But I worked so hard, why would they believe that we instantly go into?
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It's about me.
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So just even the awareness of wait a second, let's pause for a second.
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There is such a thing as projection.
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When we have compassion for ourselves and awareness.
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It actually might not even be about you have compassion for other people.
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But procrastination is a form of sabotage.
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Right, the words we use towards ourselves is a great, is a huge form of sabotage, and those things they whittle us, they break us down.
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Procrastination is a big one for high achieving women, because if we put that thing off, then we don't have to deliver it, we don't have to have that conversation, because then, if it doesn't go well, we might have to deal with the consequences.
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We just rather not.
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So you know, all these forms of sabotage are just another form of.
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I'd rather not have to be judged or put myself in that form of I'm not enough.
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I'd rather just wait push the pause.
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I'd rather not feel this way.
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I'd rather not be judged, I'd rather not.
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But by not going ahead and attacking those things, you do feel exactly the way that you're trying to avoid.
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And the projection thing is really interesting because I always used to tell my children this that many times when people are talking about the things they see in you that aren't right and whatever it is that they're giving you feedback on or complaining about whatever.
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And sometimes they might even be going and you, you know, and, as my grandmother used to say, there's, like you know, so many fingers pointing back at that person.
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They recognize these behaviors because it's something that they know about, because they have it themselves, and many times it's not so much about you as it is about them and what they need to work on.
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And they are projecting those things onto you because that's kind of how they see the world, based upon who they are.
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Now, that's not always true Sometimes.
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You know, feedback is very valuable.
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I guess I would imagine you have to learn to be able to tell the difference what's for you and what's not for you.
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Absolutely.
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And you know our mind learns and moves towards what is familiar.
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So you know, when we're changing the habits, when we're creating boundaries, it is not going to be easy, it's not going to be comfortable.
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Our mind is going to want to move towards what's familiar.
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So if taking responsibility, fixing everything, making it your responsibility, let me work overtime, let me do this, let me make this other person feel better because many, many women, we take on the responsibility of making everybody in the family okay and happy is than stepping back and saying, actually I'm doing my children a service by helping them learn depending on the age.
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So let's make sure you know I'm clarifying this is an age appropriate, you know, task we're giving our kids, but let's help them work through and feel their emotions and work through.
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Let's have a talk about this.
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What are you feeling?
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Let's talk about this instead of saying we often just want to fix things and often that is a disservice to the other person, or the person at work who we come to the rescue all the time, or the person who didn't meet their own deadline, even at home, or do their own chores, and we get angry Really.
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We're angry at ourself for not having a boundary and allowing someone not to maybe respect the rules at home that we both agreed on.
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And yeah, and you know that's very interesting.
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I know you work with women all around these kinds of issues.
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That can really save us a lot of pain if we can tackle them.
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What methods do you use to help them with the self-sabotage and the setting boundaries and the other kinds of things burning out feeling overwhelmed?
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What kinds of methods do you use to help them with that?
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Yeah.
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So you know, there's obviously the hypnosis method, which is where you get actually to the root of what is going on and what might be blocking it.
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And I think that has a lot of myths around.
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Ooh, we see people on stage doing weird things or watch Netflix, but really what that is is just quieting our conscious chitty-chatter mind and really getting to the root source of where a belief comes from.
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That might be the cause of a lack of boundaries or a lack of compassion.
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So, again, getting to the root of, maybe, the meaning we've attached to something, because everything, every thought we think, every belief that we have, the lens in which we look through life, ourself and others is all stemmed from the beliefs.
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Now, the beliefs aren't necessarily the truth and also our subconscious mind doesn't know how old we are.
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So as we move through, you know, we believe in our forties and fifties.
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We're we're this, you know wiser woman.
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But oftentimes we have a belief that might be stuck at age five or 10, that still feel, feels very unheard and unseen.
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So hypnosis is a very quick and effective, fast way that I get to the root.
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And once you get to the root, then you have the power to rewrite and change a belief.
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So repetition, using kind words, paying attention to the words that we use, our words and create visuals in our mind and the visuals just really impact how we feel.
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We can be in traffic and say this traffic is killing me, it's going to make my head explode.
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I will tell you that our body and our mind are connected and it's listening to every word you say.
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When we say my spouse never listens to me, my children, they don't care how I feel, your body is listening to that and your mind and body are connected and reacting.
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So, rather than be so dramatic with our words, we can say you know, today was a difficult day.
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Tomorrow is going to get better.
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My family is listening and understanding me more and more.
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I am having more compassion for myself every day.
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Every day I am learning boundaries, I'm getting stronger with boundaries.
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Every day and every day I'm getting you know.
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I'm feeling more compassion for myself every day, Even if it's two minutes, I'm carving out more and more time for myself and some days we don't do it.
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I love that.
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In fact, everybody you need to go play that back and write them down, because I'm listening to them say okay, I'm going to play this back and write those down.
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Those are great affirmations.
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I am a proponent of affirmations.
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I always have a daily one that I write on my journal.
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You know my long, ridiculous to-do list.
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And then I have affirmations on my website that is a weekly affirmation I put up there because I really do believe that our words come with power and what we say to ourselves can truly come to pass.
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So why not say positive things instead of saying things that bring with it a negative energy, which brings me to something else.
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I understand that you do energy healing.
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Could you explain what that is and how that works in terms of how you use it to help women?
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Oh yeah, thanks for asking so absolutely I believe that we are physical and spiritual and energetic beings and there's so much evidence and science evidence that our organs and our body vibrates at a frequency.
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So with energy healing we can also get energy blocks, just like if you go to an acupuncture they stick needles to unblock energy.
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So bringing that energy healing element to what I do just allows us to recognize, all right, if I am vibrating at a level of joy and happiness, that's a higher vibration than if I'm at guilt or shame, at a lower vibration.
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And when I hang out in a lower vibration which we all do occasionally, just being aware, when I'm at that lower vibration, I can only bring in and call into my life things that are of a lower vibration.
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So just even just recognizing or going online and finding the scale of consciousness and kind of seeing what vibration different emotions are, even just awareness, to say, okay, I'm kind of hanging out here today, maybe if I went through a walk in the park or turned on my favorite song, I'm going to raise my vibration.
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Even hope, hope is a higher vibration.
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Maybe we're not in total gratitude, but we can just climb up that ladder and I don't know about you.
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When I have hope, I have a much higher outlook on life than when I'm hanging out down in guilt.
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Oh, absolutely.
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Well, it's the whole reason why I believe in the concept of vibe.
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It's funny how I came up with that.
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I was I was, you know, taking a walk and I had been in business for, I think at that point, maybe about 10 years or something like that, and I was, you know, kind of ready to go to the next phase.
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I mean, everything about my business has always been the next phase, the next phase, next phase that just comes from being in corporate America for 25 years, and so, anyway, I said, you know, I want I'm getting the sense that a lot of the women that I'm working with you know, yeah, wellness is important, but there's something else that's missing in terms of their belief system that they could actually feel better, not just in their bodies, but in their spirits.
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I want women to feel like they can raise their vibration and then, all of a sudden, out of nowhere you know how this thing works I want women to vibe and I said, okay, vibrant, intuitive, beautiful, empowered that's what vibe stands for.
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And I believe that all midwife women especially I don't want to leave out those under 40, but over 40 is my thing but I really believe that's something that not only that we could achieve that we've earned because of all of our life experience.
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By the time you get into the 40s and 50s or whatever, you've been through a lot.
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You've got a lot of wisdom that you know that sometimes we don't always access because of our confidence levels that can aid you.
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I mean, those experiences were created to help you for the next level of experiences that you're going through.
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You've got this inner beauty that as you age, nevermind the wrinkles and everything else, that light that you have within, when you allow it to shine forth, it'll take off 10 years, it will, it will Absolutely.
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And you begin to feel more empowered as a result of realizing that you do have this internal vibrancy and intuition you can tap on.
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You do have this beautiful light within you that makes you look prettier than maybe you really think you are, and then that's empowering.
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But you first have to get to the point that you're ready to do some healing and that's why someone like you is so important in helping us get on that right journey and that's why I wanted to talk with you today, because I think what you're doing is so fantastic.
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For those of you who are listening, this is Christina Elwood that we're talking to, and you can get all of her contact information on the show page.
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You know, I always encourage you to check our guests out to find out how they can help you along this journey.
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And I did want to ask you one more question, christina.
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When it comes to your life and the things that you do, how do you vibe, how do you stay vibrant, intuitive, beautiful and empowered in your journey?
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Every day I find time to connect with a higher power and really just ground and life is so easy to get disconnected from those things and if I am, I know it's probably not going to be that great of a day and so I make a point to connect spiritually and just to the earth and whether it's through prayer or meditation, and that is the core to me, staying at a high vibe.
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Absolutely Well.
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We have so much in common.
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I thank you so much.
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