Feb. 18, 2025
Emotional Detoxing : A Journey to Holistic Healing and Spiritual Connection
What happens when a school psychologist transitions to becoming an advocate for emotional detoxing and other holistic healing practices? Meet our intriguing guest, Shariana, who shares her transformative journey from battling postpartum depression and navigating multiple antidepressants to finding peace and empowerment through holistic healing. Her story is not just about overcoming personal challenges but also about discovering the power of yoga and emotional wellness as pathways to higher vibrations and divine connection. Discover how Shariana's experiences inspired her to write her first book on balanced living and how she now guides others through similar transformative processes.
Join us as we explore the intricate dance between anxiety, emotions, and holistic healing. We redefine anxiety as an emotion seeking to be processed and discuss why traditional medical approaches might overlook deeper issues. Shariana introduces her seven-step pathway from her book "Just Ask Spirit," designed to help individuals process emotions and connect with their spiritual guides for elevated well-being. Through engaging discussions and personal anecdotes, we uncover practical tips to embrace midlife wellness, manage stress, and foster emotional resilience. Tune in for an insightful conversation that promises to empower you with the tools needed for a more vibrant and spiritually connected life.
Bio
Sherianna Boyle is the author of Just Ask Spirit: Free Your Emotions to Energize Intuition & Discover Purpose and ten other books.
She is most known for her critically acclaimed Emotional Detox book series.
Her book, The Four Gifts of Anxiety was endorsed by The National Association of Mental Health. Sherianna is the founder of Emotional Detox Coaching®, an international speaker, adjunct Psychology Professor, and founder of the Cleanse Method. ® She has been featured in Yoga Journal, Women's First, Psych Central, Mindbody Green, Psychology Today and more.
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00:00 - Emotional Wellness and Energy Healing
11:18 - Processing Emotions and Connecting Spirit
24:02 - Embracing Midlife Wellness and Empowerment
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My motto is feel first and then ask, because without the feeling first, meaning process your emotions, move the energy, and then ask.
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Because what happens with emotional processing is your vibration goes up and as your vibration goes up, energy goes up, your, your frequency goes up.
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It makes it a lot easier to connect with the divine anxiety is an emotion looking to be processed, but can't because we won't let it I got, I just gotta say.
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But therein lies the caveat that so many people struggle with the fear of processing their emotions and bringing up all those other things that they've been suppressing, thinking they're getting past it.
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Well, we do our own form of band-aiding when it comes to our symptoms.
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We've been taught to do that by our healthcare system, but we've also been taught to do that because it feels like it's working for a while, but it never really goes away.
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Hi, I'm Lennis Woods Mullins and I love to help women to vibe, to be more vibrant, intuitive, beautiful and empowered in midlife.
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So come on, let's vibe.
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You know I've always been curious about people who have that gift for writing, like our current guest.
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She has written 11 books, including her recent one, just Ask, spirit.
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She is the founder of Emotional Detox Coaching, creator of the Cleanse Method and the author of Emotional Detox book series, which is a series of books that talks about the whole issue around emotional detoxing.
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It's wonderful to have you here, sharina.
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Is that correct?
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I should have asked you Shariana.
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Shariana, okay, I just got through renaming our guest Shariana.
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Thanks so much for being with us.
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It's wonderful to have you on the Vibe Living Podcast today.
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Thank you so much.
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And my daughter is getting her journalism degree right now, is she?
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Yeah, well, I'm glad that there's still people aspiring to do journalism.
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It's very important it is that's the way she feels too.
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Yes, absolutely Well.
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Congratulations on having your daughter in college.
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That's fantastic.
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It's always an accomplishment.
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I have four daughters so I know how that is so fantastic.
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I have three.
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I have three.
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Really Look at all the things we have in common.
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I'll tell you something else we have in common.
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The other thing we have in common is this whole deal around emotional wellness.
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I do what I do now because of a journey that I took to get rid of my anxiety, which was caused by a couple of things by post-traumatic stress and also hormonally.
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At the back of the day, when I first started this journey about 18 years ago, I wasn't getting the right diagnosis and didn't really get the right diagnosis until about like eight years ago, believe it or not.
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So there's a whole lot of questions around what's the right way?
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Can you get rid of it?
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And these days especially, it is a huge issue, which is probably one of the reasons why you're so busy these days.
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But tell us what is your story.
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How did you get into the whole idea of emotional wellness?
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Well, you know, you and I have a lot in common.
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We're learning that every, every time we open our mouths, and I I so agree with that diagnosis in terms of anxiety and hormonally.
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I went through that myself.
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But my journey is I I began as a school psychologist.
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I was working in the schools with children and families, and then I I was in a school system that didn't have enough.
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I was working in the schools and I got pregnant with my first daughter, took a leave of absence with the full intention that I would eventually go back to my position, and after I took that leave, I went through some postpartum depression, a lot of hormonal stuff, and then I went on the journey of medications like a lot of people and I was on five different antidepressants in one year, so I would try one and then they'd say I'd say I'm having too many side effects and I'm a new mom, I'm like I can't.
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I can't I can't be sleeping.
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One woman would make me sleep all the time, and then another way.
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So I went through five different antidepressants in one year and then finally they said they took my blood levels and they said your liver is off, it's elevated.
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And I said enough with the drugs enough enough.
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It's elevated.
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And I said enough with the drugs, enough.
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And so I said I've got to figure this, I've got to find another way to help myself.
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And that's when I fell into yoga.
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I started teaching yoga and I just knew right away was something in my spirit.
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You know, talking about spirit is when you find yourself in this something I learned writing just ask spirit.
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You know, talking about spirit is when you find yourself and this is something I learned writing Just Ask Spirit when you find yourself really interested in something.
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You just can't get enough of it.
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And that was what happened with yoga.
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You know that that's part of your path, that is part of your purpose.
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There's something there for you, and that was me.
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I couldn't get enough of it, and so I ended up getting pregnant again, and then I had eventually had a third daughter and I eventually, you know, gave up my position at the school and started writing.
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And I started writing.
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Okay, how do I?
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How do I do this different?
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You know if I cause.
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I always had in my mind I was going to go back and back to that career and I started writing.
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Okay, if I'm going to go back, what am I going to do different?
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How can I look at things differently?
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How can I live my life differently?
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Because I can't be a mom of all these children and do what I did.
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There's just no way can't be a mom of all these children and do what I did.
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It's there's just no way.
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And that's really what gave me the idea of my first book was kind of almost like writing it for me, but knowing that a lot of other people were in the same situation, and so I self-published my first book.
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And then I was at a preschool with one of my daughters and I was approached and someone said I read your book, wow yeah.
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And said you know a lot about mindfulness and and helping with anxiety that way.
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And I said, yeah, I just I researched it and this.
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And they said, well, you write a book for us, not knowing this person was part of a publisher.
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So talk about divine synchronicity and spirit.
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Right place, right time.
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No idea.
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And because I wrote that book and it was out there and they knew my background.
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They asked me.
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So my first journey was a assignment and so, being the school psychologist that I was, I was used to getting things done quickly, because when you're in the schools, you have deadlines, you have you have to abide by the law and you have families and you have people counting on you, so you can't slack.
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And so they said here's the glitch.
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And I, and I said yeah, and they said can you write it in five weeks?
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They wanted me to write about childhood anxiety and I said yeah, and they said can you write it in five weeks?
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They wanted me to write about childhood anxiety and.
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I said sure, wow, isn't that amazing?
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And I did it.
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I wrote the book in five weeks and they were so impressed they asked me to write another one and I said they said this time you've eight weeks.
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I said okay, and I did it again.
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I don't know how I did it back Now I look at it, you know, look at a lot of things we did when we were younger.
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How did that happen Really?
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Now, the first one was that, was that the very first one?
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What was the name of it?
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Yeah, the first one was called Powered by Me for Educators.
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So I wrote it to educators as an educator and it was about you know who's really running the show when you go to work every day?
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And then that's why I called it Powered by Me.
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Eventually that led into the childhood anxiety books.
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That's what I was hired for.
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So I wrote the Conscious Parenting Guide to Child Anxiety.
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I wrote another book, everything Parent Guide.
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So I did some parenting books and then I said to the publisher I have some ideas of my own.
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So up to then they were kind of picking the titles for me and the assignments and that's when I started pitching my own, eventually pitching emotional detox.
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And then that turned into a series.
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That's just amazing, and I'm particularly curious because of the whole anxiety.
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One of the books you wrote was the Four Gifts of Anxiety, which is actually endorsed by the Association of Mental Health.
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So there must be some value added information there, even from a traditional perspective.
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But on the other token, you have the whole thing about energy healing that you do.
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So how has energy healing helped you when it comes to dealing with anxiety and also with the four gifts of anxiety?
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What kinds of things do you talk about in that book?
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Yeah, so along the way, I mean, we're looking at years and years now.
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So my first book I published in 2012.
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So just to give a timeframe, and within that timeframe I started getting energy healing training and I started opening up my own little hang in a shingle with it kind of thing and getting multiple certifications around there and it was very helpful for the writing piece and that was really what I wanted, because I didn't medication didn't work and I really wanted to help children.
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So the four gifts I think why it was endorsed.
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Now they don't endorse books anymore, so I just got lucky.
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Again.
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It was timing they don't do that because there's so many books now but but they, what they liked was I talked about tapping in that book, which is now very well known, but back then that book was written 214.
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Not many people knew about tapping and I talk about energy and emotions.
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It was really the beginning and moving through things and what it's like when you get on the other side and the gifts that you receive from that.
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But eventually I wrote Emotional Detox for Anxiety that book.
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After I wrote Emotional Detox, I wrote that one a year later and that is when I really started to connect with spirit.
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I mean, I was connecting along the way, being guided every step.
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But now I'm starting to really channel.
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So in the beginning it felt more like academic, would you say, with a little bit of a self-help personal touch.
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But as I started to channel my writing, it started to influence the writing, and what I mean by that is really being guided, what was going to, what, what it all meant.
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And so the way I define anxiety and emotional detox, for anxiety is anxiety, is an emotion looking to be processed, but can't because we won't let it.
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And how do we not let it?
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Well, we minimize it, ignore it, push it down.
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Yes, which makes it worse and worse and worse.
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At least that's been my experience and I've worked with quite a few women when it comes to anxiety from a hormonal perspective, and so many times doctors miss this because they're, you know, most traditionally trained doctors.
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Look for, you know symptoms and treating the symptoms, but the causation doesn't always get tapped.
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And I'm not anti-AMA as I say many times, I think we need to have doctors too, but there's a whole plethora of other things that we can do when it comes to anxiety and some of the other ills that we experience, especially as we begin to age, that can really help and will rule out pharmaceuticals, whatever it is that we might end up doing as a result of not knowing about these holistic practices.
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You mentioned tapping in 2014.
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I started in my business in 2009,.
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I think it was way, way early in terms of what I'm doing now, which is what I was doing then, but it took that amount of time to catch up with my vision because so many people just weren't aware or weren't ready for some of these other holistic methods to heal.
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Now, in Just Ask spirit, I know you cover some of these other ways to heal.
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Tell us a little bit about that book and why you decided to write it.
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Yeah.
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So once again, I just want to really thank you for focusing on hormones, because I think it is so important that you're out there and that's your and I know emotions play a big role in that, because eventually I did uncover some hormonal things that were going on.
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So I just want to piggyback on that and say I think that is so important people to get in touch with someone like you who's really focused on that area as well as emotions, just ask spirit.
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So now we're at that's the 11th book and everything kind of fell again into place.
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I wrote the emotional detox book series and then I wrote a book in between that called energy in action, which is a book about manifesting and I'm at this point channeling and I'm working what's called with a raise of light.
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Now that's part of energy healing and the rays of light are from source and that's what I love about them Meaning.
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There there's no ego, nobody owns them, nobody can say this is mine, right, and so as I'm connecting and writing about it in energy and action, I realized later that it was like sort of the teach getting me prepared for just a spirit.
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So I talk about the rays of light and just a spirit as well.
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But my motto in that book is, and what I've learned is a lot of people say, you know, they ask spirit or they want to connect with their guides and this and that.
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But my motto is feel first and then ask, because without the feeling first, meaning process your emotions, move the energy, and then ask, because what happens with emotional processing is your vibration goes up, is your vibration goes up and as your vibration goes up, energy goes up, your frequency goes up it makes it a lot easier to connect with the divine, I just got to say.
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But therein lies the caveat that so many people struggle with the fear of processing their emotions and bringing up all those other things that they've been suppressing, thinking they're getting past it.
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Well, we do our own form of band-aiding when it comes to our symptoms.
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We've been taught to do that by our healthcare system, but we've also been taught to do that because it feels like it's working for a while, but it never really goes away.
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So I just wanted to just put an underline on that, because that's really the first step, and my question is how do you get the courage to process it?
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Well, that's why I wrote Just Ask Spirit, I give a seven steps, I call it the seven, seven, seven step pathway that well, my guides told me that seven steps to process your emotions, seven steps to connect with your guides.
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So we have seven archangels in there.
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That's just some examples.
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There's other guides I know that people connect to.
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There's also elements and things like that.
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And then we have seven chakras in our system, the main chakras.
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We have more than that, but those are energy centers.
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So the first three steps are about your emotions.
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So step one we're preparing to connect to our emotions.
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Emotions when they're in flow, when we allow them to be processed, when they're in flow, when we allow them to be processed, awaken the senses.
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And when you awaken the senses, you increase your ability to connect and to receive.
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So step one is that is, I call it cleanse.
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That's why I say cleanse is the basis of everything I do.
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The C is connect to light.
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You want to connect to light.
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In that first step and I teach people how to do that the L is called look inward and that's where you're connecting to what you feel, your emotions, and not only connecting to them by labeling, but actually starting to move them, starting to process them, and I teach people that.
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What is in that L step?
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The E is called emit.
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That is, using vibration, sound.
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Sound moves energy like nobody's business.
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Sound therapy, the sound of your own voice.
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And so we're introducing sound, which I also refer to as mantra, and I wrote a book called Mantras Made Easy.
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So I knew mantras were going to be in the cleanse.
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Mantras are, they're like spiritual medicine, they're sacred, they've been passed on to us from our ancestors.
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So step three is going to be a mantra.
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Now you're moving the energy, now you're ready.
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In step four, the A, which is ask.
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Now you ask, and that is a whole lesson in itself how to ask, what to ask, the different variations of asking.
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But we know that to connect to spirit we do need to ask, because that's our free will and they don't interfere, our guides, unless we ask.
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I'm going to pause you right there because I have a big question to ask you about all of this.
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We're going to go over to our sponsors that helped me keep this on the air and we will be right back.
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Okay, thank you so much.
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You know I gotta ask you this question.
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Yeah, is what you do grounded in religion, or is this totally separate from that?
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it's grounded in spirituality.
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It's not that I don't honor religion.
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You know the the threads of it when I was doing the research, seeing how it's the areas where it's connected, where spirituality and religion kind of agree, if you will.
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You know some, some, some areas, but I would say it's more grounded in spirituality.
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It's and what I mean by spirituality, consciousness, awareness, and what I mean by spirituality, consciousness, awareness, energy and light.
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It's grounded in light, not a fear.
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Sometimes I find religion for me.
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There was some fear around that.
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I respect it, I respect all religions, but there's no place for fear when it comes to processing.
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So that's to asking and that's why it's important to process your emotions, and let me say something about that Also.
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I happen to be a Christian and but I find that my spirit guides the Holy spirit, whatever you want to call it, whatever name you want to call it, cause sometimes we get so grounded in dogma that we miss so much good information that could be helpful, and I have found, when it comes to what you're talking about, you know you take what works for you, and that's important that you figure that out instead of automatically saying, oh no, I can't do that or I don't want to listen to that or whatever, because you miss so much good information.
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And I can tell you that, when it comes to moving energy and going within and processing your emotions and all of that, it is so real.
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I don't care if you worship Jesus, pet frog, buddha, whatever, or if you're an atheist or agnostic, whatever.
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This kind, this modality, it can work if you allow it to work.
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And I think also that sometimes we can be our own worst enemy when it comes to fear.
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But let's remember that fear is really just false expectations appearing real.
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So much of our fear is based on things that aren't really real, just like our feelings, even though we want to recognize our feelings are based on things that may not be happening right now, but accumulation of occurrences that are causing you to feel a certain way, and that's really what anxiety is all about.
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The anxiety you're feeling can be rooted in something that happened when you were five years old, but you don't ever get to that until you start, as you're saying, asking those questions, and I love your process.
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It makes sense to me.
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Yeah, yeah, it's feel first and then ask.
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So allow yourself to process, because what you think you should be focusing on you know.
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So it's always interesting to me because someone will come and they'll ask me a question and my response is always well, let me ask spirit.
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That's how I came up with the name of the book.
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So for years I've been doing my emotional detox coaching and I would say I'd get to a point where I'd say, well, let me ask spirit.
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But I would only do that after we processed.
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That was my rule of thumb.
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First it was let's process the emotions, then I'm going to ask spirit.
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But I'm not going to do it before, because if I do it before, I'm likely asking from a place of reactivity, so wanting to fix or control or manage what I'm feeling.
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That's not connection.
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Think about it If you and I were just asking to fix something, control something, you and I really wouldn't be truly connected.
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So there's got to be a flow there, there's got to be an openness, and you're right.
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I mean I would say I lean more Christian if I were to lay, but I'm very open and I had to work through some of that stuff myself, linus, when I was writing.
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Just Ask Spirit, because you don't realize the conditioning that is on us and I had to work out who am I connecting to?
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Is this right, is this wrong?
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Is this good, is this bad?
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Oh, my goodness, I think when I first got started in you know, the whole holistic mind, body, spirit community and there were some major disconnects with the Christian community like, oh no, linus is you know worshiping?
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It's like no, no, no, no, not at all.
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You know there's still this whole thing about yoga and the kugelini spirit and I said, you know, no spirit is going to be entering into me that I don't want to, because I feel very strongly with my relationship with God.
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I'm, you know my covering and so if I have some fissures there, I know how to close that off.
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I recognize when something that's not for me is there and how to ward that off.
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So I have no fear about taking a look at what might work for me.
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And I'm not saying necessarily, and all of my, you know, vibers out there.
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I'm not saying necessarily that all of this is for you, but I am saying, if you've tried everything else and you are still experiencing anxiety and you are still experiencing repressed feelings of unworthiness and all these other things that come with the whole idea of being emotionally unwell, this is something that you need to take a look at.
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Open your mind Many times.
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The things that we are feeling that cause us to be unwell, prevent us from opening our mind and I would say that would almost be the first step before even processing is making the many times the things that we are feeling that cause us to be unwell, prevent us from opening our mind and I would say that would almost be the first step before even processing is making the decision.
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Okay, I'm going to open my mind to this because I need help.
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You know I'm suffering.
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I'm no longer.
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In my case, I got to the point where I was even afraid to walk to the mailbox because I didn't want to open the mail that was there because I was afraid of what was going to be there Bad news, whatever.
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It just got to be out of control until one day I hit a wall.
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I woke up getting ready to go to work and at this time I was in human resources and very high ranking position for an HMO HMO right, there is enough to put you in anxiety in terms of all the things that you deal with in a traditionally medically run organization.
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But I couldn't stop crying.
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I didn't even know I was crying until a family member pointed it out.
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